{"id":84,"date":"2005-08-30T11:19:10","date_gmt":"2005-08-30T01:19:10","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/machinegunkeyboard.com\/?p=84"},"modified":"2005-08-31T20:38:40","modified_gmt":"2005-08-31T10:38:40","slug":"sexual-assault-or-just-harmless-fun","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/machinegunkeyboard.com\/?p=84","title":{"rendered":"Sexual assault&#8230; or just &#8216;harmless fun?&#8217;"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"150\" vspace=\"0\" hspace=\"5\" height=\"150\" border=\"0\" align=\"right\" title=\"it's NOT just a little harmless fun.\" alt=\"it's NOT just a little harmless fun.\" src=\"http:\/\/machinegunkeyboard.com\/\/blogimages\/lieberal_sexual_assault_NSW.jpg\" \/> In the vast majority of the <a href=\"http:\/\/www.smh.com.au\/news\/national\/euphoric-evening-that-ended-a-career\/2005\/08\/29\/1125302510884.html\" target=\"_blank\">stories<\/a> <a href=\"http:\/\/www.smh.com.au\/news\/opinion\/mailorder-insult-shows-women-still-lack-respect-from-society\/2005\/08\/29\/1125302506664.html\" target=\"_blank\">in<\/a> <a href=\"http:\/\/www.abc.net.au\/news\/newsitems\/200508\/s1448810.htm\" target=\"_blank\">Australian<\/a> <a href=\"http:\/\/www.news.com.au\/story\/0,10117,16421354-1702,00.html\" target=\"_blank\">mainstream<\/a> <a href=\"http:\/\/www.news.com.au\/story\/0,10117,16419481-2,00.html\" target=\"_blank\">meeeeja<\/a> about the fall of Grogden,&nbsp; the aspect which is played most heavily is the dismissal of Helena Carr as a &#8216;mail-order bride.&#8217; While the former NSW Lieberal Party leader&#8217;s gaffe regarding Helena is certainly heinous and by itself warranted his sacking, <a target=\"_blank\" href=\"http:\/\/www.smh.com.au\/news\/opinion\/mailorder-insult-shows-women-still-lack-respect-from-society\/2005\/08\/29\/1125302506664.html\">very few<\/a> stories are covering the angle of the sexual assault and harassment of two female journalists. <a target=\"_blank\" href=\"http:\/\/notanothertermplease.blogspot.com\/2005\/08\/brogden-sorry-he-was-caught.html\">Bloggers<\/a> are doing a better job in <a href=\"http:\/\/notanothertermplease.blogspot.com\/2005\/08\/fuck-off-dogbreath.html\" target=\"_blank\">raising these issues<\/a>, but I&#8217;m a little surprised at the paucity of coverage even among this group.    <\/p>\n<p>Groggo did what all sexual harassers do when confronted with their deeds; he dismissed and minimised his unwelcome sexual advances as &#8216;all harmless fun.&#8217; Worse, the mainstreams are in large part letting him do this without question, accepting his diluted apology to the women. If you&#8217;re truly sorry about something, you express your remorse without qualification, you don&#8217;t try to evade, minimise or dismiss a complaint. You&#8217;re either sorry about your behaviour and intend to change it- or you&#8217;re not.  <\/p>\n<p>Some men just don&#8217;t understand that they have no natural right to sexually access women. These <a target=\"_blank\" href=\"http:\/\/www.hreoc.gov.au\/sex_discrimination\/bad_business\/media\/case.html\">case studies in the HREOC<\/a> website demonstrate the level of denial that many men exhibit in the course of sexual harassment or assaults.&nbsp; <\/p>\n<\/p>\n<p><a target=\"_blank\" href=\"http:\/\/www.hreoc.gov.au\/sex_discrimination\/bad_business\/media\/fact_legal.html\">Sexual harassment <\/a>is fairly narrowly defined but can be comprised of quite a number of actions, including:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>* unwelcome touching; <\/li>\n<li>\n<div align=\"left\" class=\"bodytext\"> * staring or leering; <\/div>\n<\/li>\n<li> * sexually explicit pictures or posters; <\/li>\n<li>\n<div align=\"left\" class=\"bodytext\"> * unwanted invitations to go out                on dates; <\/div>\n<\/li>\n<li>\n<div align=\"left\" class=\"bodytext\"> * requests for sex; <\/div>\n<\/li>\n<li>\n<div align=\"left\" class=\"bodytext\">* intrusive questions about a person&rsquo;s                private life or body; <\/div>\n<\/li>\n<li>\n<div align=\"left\" class=\"bodytext\"> * unnecessary familiarity, such                as deliberately brushing up against a person; <\/div>\n<\/li>\n<li>\n<div align=\"left\" class=\"bodytext\"> * insults or taunts based on sex;              <\/div>\n<\/li>\n<li>\n<div align=\"left\" class=\"bodytext\"> * sexually explicit physical contact;                and <\/div>\n<\/li>\n<li>\n<div align=\"left\" class=\"bodytext\"> * sexually explicit emails or SMS                text messages.  <\/div>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>I have yet to see a publication of any acceptance of the apology proffered for Groggo&#8217;s unwelcome advances by either Angela Cuming of the <a target=\"_blank\" href=\"http:\/\/www.smh.com.au\">Sun-Herald <\/a>or Justine Ferrari of the <a href=\"http:\/\/dailytelegraph.news.com.au\/0,20295,,00.html\" target=\"_blank\">Daily Tele<\/a>, though Ms. Cuming <a target=\"_blank\" href=\"http:\/\/www.smh.com.au\/news\/national\/ive-been-around-long-enough-to-know-a-proposition\/2005\/08\/29\/1125302510913.html\">tells her tale here<\/a>. <\/p>\n<p>The tone of Cuming&#8217;s story bewilders me- it&#8217;s as if she&#8217;s on trial, having to prove her case that she was actually sexually harassed. Cuming&#8217;s story is even titled <em>I&#8217;ve been around long enough to know a proposition,<\/em> as if she is answering a question as to whether or not she knew what sexual harassment and assault truly are. She closes the bit with a pointed notation that she was deeply concerned with how she was approached, as if to demonstrate injury&#8230;. as if she had to!   <\/p>\n<p>I can see why Cuming felt like she had to provide justification, though. Quite a large percentage of men refuse to accept that bawdy jokes or relatively innocuous physical contact can leave a woman in an imbalanced power situation feeling so disturbed that she will change her behaviours, in many cases dramatically, either to avoid future contact with the harasser or to steel herself for frequent repeats of the unwelcome behaviours if the harasser cannot be avoided.&nbsp;   <\/p>\n<p>Sam from over at <a target=\"_blank\" href=\"http:\/\/queerpenguin.blogspot.com\/\">QueerPenguin<\/a> <a target=\"_blank\" href=\"http:\/\/machinegunkeyboard.com\/?p=81#comment-216\">peels off the layers of the onion<\/a> left undisturbed by the mainstreams. He notes that this event took place a month ago&#8230; and does not appear to have been reported in any way by Cuming or Ferrari. We&#8217;re talking about working journalists here, folks, with something newsy at the ends of their noses. However, it isn&#8217;t too hard to work out that <em>if<\/em> these journos had filed formal complaints about Groggo&#8217;s advances, they would have found it nearly impossible to report the <a target=\"_blank\" href=\"http:\/\/www.smh.com.au\/news\/opinion\/a-glimpse-behind-the-public-mask\/2005\/08\/29\/1125302506652.html\">NSW political beat<\/a> in the future. <\/p>\n<p>Quite a number of men are fundamentally insecure and won&#8217;t be direct with women about their potential availability. Too many men test the waters of sexual availability of women in nefarious ways, with ribald jokes or relatively innocuous physical contact like an arm around the woman&#8217;s shoulders. These rituals are constructed to leave men the option of dismissing their actions as anything but what they are, should objections be raised.<\/p>\n<p align=\"center\"> <img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"400\" vspace=\"0\" hspace=\"5\" height=\"203\" border=\"0\" title=\"total_control_bob_carlos_clarke.jpg\" alt=\"total_control_bob_carlos_clarke.jpg\" src=\"http:\/\/machinegunkeyboard.com\/\/blogimages\/total_control_bob_carlos_clarke.jpg\" \/><\/p>\n<p align=\"center\">&nbsp;<em>image: <a target=\"_blank\" href=\"http:\/\/www.eyestorm.com\/kwsearch\/kwsearchresults.aspx?qu=2&#038;keyword=clarke&#038;x=20&#038;y=12\">Bob Carlos Clarke<\/a><\/em>  <\/p>\n<p>Particularly insecure men can be angered to the point of meting retribution if a woman rebuffs them, as though a natural right had been denied them. Women who are not compliant and controllable are a threat to men who harbour these misconceptions. Almost all men who go down this path will dismiss their behaviours and minimise the woman&#8217;s disquiet.  <\/p>\n<p>Guys, if there&#8217;s <a href=\"http:\/\/www.clotheslineproject.org\/No_Means_No.htm\" target=\"_blank\">any part<\/a> <a href=\"http:\/\/iul.com\/anon\/no.htm\" target=\"_blank\">of &#8216;no&#8217;<\/a> that you don&#8217;t understand, it&#8217;s time to rethink your behaviour.<\/p>\n<p>-weez&nbsp;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Why is mainstream media ignoring the bleeding obvious?<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[2],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-84","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-general"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"http:\/\/machinegunkeyboard.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/84","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"http:\/\/machinegunkeyboard.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"http:\/\/machinegunkeyboard.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/machinegunkeyboard.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/machinegunkeyboard.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=84"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"http:\/\/machinegunkeyboard.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/84\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"http:\/\/machinegunkeyboard.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=84"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/machinegunkeyboard.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=84"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/machinegunkeyboard.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=84"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}