A snapshot of reality

February 22nd, 2005

A Single Parent’s August to do list. 
  1. Dust off resume
  2. Find jobnetwork member
  3. Make appointment
  4. Research childcare options
  5. Research more childcare options
  6. Place name on waiting list
  7. Call 131 500 to find out how to get to jobnetwork and childcare places
  8. Do budget of money in and money out
  9. Do sums again (this can’t be right)
  10. Make a plan for what to do if I’m sick or kids are sick
  11. Count money again! (this can’t be right)
  12. Call Child Support Agency asking if child support can be increased
  13. Call Centrelink. Make appointment with a Social Worker
  14. Call mum and ask for a loan
  15. Take savings and try to win money on the pokies
  16. Work against feelings of isolation and resentment
  17. Think about having another baby 
    Being a single parent is in and of itself very hard work.
    Start up a conversation with the next one you see and ask them.
    Thing is they don’t get out much.

A reverse fairytale where the mistress takes all…

February 11th, 2005

In my youth I completed an Apprenticeship as a Florist. It’s a Trade in Victoria, with all the usual low wages, poor conditions, long hours, indenture, and exploitation. The first year weekly wage was $72.50 (after tax).

Even with all this, I loved being an apprentice Florist and no days more than Saturdays when all the freshly-proposed-to would come into the little ‘Weddings a specialty’ flower shop with either their bossy mother or their bossy maid-of-honour to order wedding flowers.

Their rings would sparkle almost as much as they did, with what I thought was the true love of it all. Even then my nascent cynicism was evident as after an hour of discussing the relative benefits of a Cascade bouquet with Stephanotis or Frangipani I would think

"Shit make a decision! It’s just a wedding bouquet."

Then, usually at about six weeks before the wedding the mother or maid-of-honour would come in upset saying that it was just so sad the wedding is off, and can we refund the deposit on the flowers?

Older and more cynical, with one of my brothers married for 26 days, I see weddings differently. Now I see them as,

  1. validation of your union before your god
  2. a rite-of-passage that most women feel measures their ‘success’ in society
  3. a community sanctioned structure to raise children with everyone having the ease of the same surname

I once created a huge wedding bouquet for a girlfriend who before her 36th birthday believed that she was too old to marry. Because this made her sad, we as her friends organised a wedding-day-themed-dress-up 36th birthday party to cheer her up.

I’m not anti-love, and I’m not anti-let’s-give-it-a-go, but I am anti-dishonesty and Charles and Camilla have been profoundly mendacious. Unconditional, reciprocal love is so fundamental to a person’s wellness that it is not unreasonable to expect it from those you marry, as Princess Diana did.

"Bring him a virgin and make sure she’s fertile…"

…was what was overheard as Queen Elizabeth and the Queen Mother discussed Charles’ future.

I’m not sure if I applaud Camilla and Charles for their love-above-all-antics or they make me wretch as I remember the emotional abuse story that Charles’ previous wife told of living in a relationship with he-who-will-be-King and the ‘other woman’.

They will not be married in a church and I doubt either of them will be wearing white.

Either way I want to stay far, far, away from them both and I hope it doesn’t turn out to be a shotgun wedding…eek.

It comes in waves…

January 30th, 2005

I’ve been watching Waveaid on Channel V and I feel such pride toward my fellow Australians.

I even have time for the Labor MP for Kingsford Smith. He and Midnight Oil rocked the SCG.

Someone in the crowd held up a sign saying,

"Garrett for PM"

…perhaps in a decade.

Vicarious stupidity.

January 30th, 2005

Our Prime Minister is at the World Economic Forum (WEF) in Switzerland proving to the entire world just how stupid he is with statements such as this.

"Can I just say, I mean, the negative mindset of the last five minutes is ridiculous – of course America has made mistakes."

"I think some of the criticism of the Americans by some the Europeans is unfair and irrational and I have said so."

Meanwhile in America, Gore Vidal has responded to Bush’s second inauguration speech – found over at WhatROOLYhappened.com.

Gore Vidal responds to this excerpt from Bush’s speech,

"America will not impose our own style of government on the unwilling. Our goal, instead, is to help others find their own voice, attain their own freedom, and make their own way. The great objective of ending tyranny is the concentrated work of generations. The difficulty of the task is no excuse for avoiding it. America’s influence is not unlimited; but fortunately for the oppressed, America’s influence is considerable, and we will use it confidently in freedom’s cause."

Vidal’s comments,

"Well, I hardly know where to end, much less begin. There’s not a word of truth in anything that he said. Our founding fathers did not set us on a course to liberate all the world from tyranny. Jefferson just said, all men are created equal, and should be, etc, but it was not the task of the United States to go abroad to slay dragons, as John Quincy Adams so wisely put it; because if the United States does go abroad to slay dragons in the name of freedom, liberty, and so on, she could become dictatress of the world, but in the process she would lose her soul. That is what we – the lesson we should be learning now, instead of this declaration of war against the entire globe. He doesn’t define what tyranny is. I’d say what we have now in the United States is working up a nice tyrannical persona for itself and for us. As we lose liberties he’s, I guess, handing them out to other countries which have not asked for them, particularly; and what he says – The reaction in Europe – and I know we mustn’t mention them because they’re immoral and they have all those different kinds of cheese – but, simultaneously, they’re much better educated than we are, and they’re richer. Get that out there: The Europeans per capita are richer than the Americans, per capita. And by the time this administration is finished, there won’t be any money left of any kind, starting with poor social security, which will be privatized, so that is the last gold rush for (as they say) men with an eye for opportunity."

"Events are made so horrible people like Saddam and so on are demonized, and we all have to immediately begin by saying how awful he is for 25 minutes before we can get down to the fact that he was no threat to the United States, no threat at all. He was not involved with al Qaeda. He was not involved with 9/11. He was not. He was not. You can say it a million times, but there you have a president with the help of the most corrupt media in my lifetime buoying his words across the land and telling lies about the – We’re 45 minutes away from being blown up by the weapons of mass destruction that this master of evil has in his hands. – To which the answer is: Why? Why would he do that? There must be some motivation. You see, they are now beyond motivation, and that is insanity. So, an insane government is not one that you can look to with any confidence."

John HoWARd follows Bush and his administration without applying facts, truth, logic, analysis, common sense or humanity.

Supersizing the Compassion combo…

January 28th, 2005

Today Kim stated a vision for the party. He says:

“We believe you can have a modern dynamic economy with compassion.”

Here’s my list Kim:

  1. Compassion for Iraqi civilians – Troops out.
  2. Compassion for scared pregnant women (young and old) when they seek termination services – expand access to Abortion services and the morning after pill.
  3. Compassion for the environment – Sign Kyoto.
  4. Compassion for Asylum seekers – welcome all with no need for TPV’s.
  5. Compassion for refugees – expand immigration.
  6. Compassion for freedom of speech – A Bill of Rights.
  7. Compassion for dissenting voices – repeal the Australian Security Intelligence Organisation Legislation Amendment (Terrorism) Bill [No. 2] 2002 (“the ASIO bill”) and promote tolerance.
  8. Compassion for Medicare – embrace, fund and respect free public healthcare for all.
  9. As much compassion as a wealthy society such as Australia can provide to all it’s citizens – reinvigorate Public Housing, raise the dollars for pensions such as DSP, PPS and PPP.

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